Wednesday, June 5, 2013

REAL TALK WEDNESDAY: LABELS


The word FRIEND is a word that we are very familiar with, right? If you don't really know, let me give you the definition that is given in the dictionary. FRIEND: A person whom one knows, likes, and trusts. Now that you have gotten familiar with the definition, let me give you my definition. FRIEND: A person whom you think you have created a close bond or in other words created a FRIENDSHIP, which sometimes never last for to long. Now at this point, you already think you know what this post is about. I am truly sorry that I have to be the one to tell you, but you are what people call JUDGMENTAL. Now, how do you feel that you were told that you are judgmental? Do you feel ANGRY, do you feel SAD, are you HAPPY that the truth was told to you, or do you think all this about you being judgmental is a bunch of bull shit. Well the answer is this is a bunch of bull shit that I used to get your attention. But one thing I would say to you, if you truly believe you are actually judgmental. I am thankful that I told you something friends have hidden from you. "The truth hurts, but for the greater good. It needs to be told". Now that I have gotten your full attention, lets get to what this is really about. Please don't judge me because I am not a cold heated person or friendless. I just see that Labels are exactly what it is, a WORD that is MEANINGLESS. For example, I have seen many people fast to use that word "Friend" (or Girlfriend, Boyfriend, Husband, Wife etc..) to just use as a label for someone as if they were a piece of meat on the market. If we consider ourselves the height of evolution, why do we have to subject ourselves to give meaningless labels to everything unless it is a invented product. Personally, I just think giving labels to someone you might consider a comrade or lover would complicate things much more especially labels that have very strong emotional meaning. Do you think if we don't label someone as a FRIEND or LOVER  and then you and that person had a fall out (can not be friends or lover). Do you think it would be painful or painless? Hummm! is what a lot of people would say to this question. Since this is not a question that people normally would be asked. I truly believe that if we just know someone as a friend or lover (without giving them that label) for years and later on, y'all brake up/ stop being friends. It would be much easier to move on without subjecting yourself to embarrassing moments and just remember the great moments you had with that person. That is all till next tuesday. Enjoy the rest of your day!